How Therapy Can Help You Heal After a Relationship Ends

It’s no secret that breakups can be devastating. The movie tropes of post-break up emotionally numbing with TV and icecream in hand allude to a common experience of shock, depression, lethargy, and life disruption that comes after a break up. Whether you’ve been together a short time or many, many years, therapy may help you heal after a relationship ends.

Therapy can Help Process the Relationship

Seeking therapy after a relationship ends can help you explore what the relationship meant to you, helping you cope and sort out any grief that lingers. Many times breakups bring up other longstanding hopes and grief that a relationship therapist can help you unpack. Therapy can also help you understand the healthy and dysfunctional relational patterns that may have existed in the relationship.

Therapy can help you Identify pain points that need healing 

Therapy after a relationship ends can also help you identify underlying pain that needs your attention and healing. There could be grief, trauma, or recurrent relational patterns from within the relationship or the breakup itself that need exploring and healing. 

Therapy can help you Identify pain points you contributed to in the relationship

All relationships contain multitudes of factors, but it’s likely you contributed to some of the unhealthy dynamics within the relationship in some way, big or small. While it’s temping to cast blame for the relationship issues on your ex, it’s important to take a look at any areas you may have responsibility, especially if there is a recurrent pattern of these behaviors. A relationship therapist can help you spot blindspots and move towards healthier patterns in relationships.

Therapy Can Help You Move Forward After a Breakup

As you heal and work through the above, you’ll start to have space to learn from the relationship and integrate the good and bad of the relationship into your story so you can move forward. As you learn to accept what happened, you’ll be able to move forward with peace rather than getting stuck in resentment vilifying yourself or your ex.

Schedule your free 15 Minute Consult

It’s normal to struggle after an important relationship ends.  I am a relationship therapist that specializes in supporting individuals in the aftermath of divorce or a relationship ending. Reach out today to schedule your free 15 minute consult call to get started with therapy in Oakland, CA today.